As you know, Femmes Faithful started a series called “Portraits of Love”. We sat down to interview Kevin and Ericka Arthur for their 17th Anniversary and hopefully get beyond the fluff that magazine cover lines would lead you to believe is life-changing, to discover what really (on the real) makes a marriage endure and Love last for 21 years. Get to know the couple and what started the series in Love: Not A Game…But A Lifetime. But for now, READ the 3rd installment of their interview below including a few responses captured on video.
FF: When, where and how did the two of you first meet?
Kevin + Ericka: We met at church and were introduced by a mutual friend. That was 21 yrs. ago… started dating about a month after we met.
Ericka: I can not believe its been that long! LOL.
FF: Admit two unlovable traits about yourself that you love each other past.
K: My moodiness and my stubbornness.
FF: Well, Kevin got right to the point! What about you, Ericka?
E: Hmmm… only two?! I have sooooo many. LOL! I would say my impeccable memory. It’s a blessing and a curse. The other is I’m all heart. Also a blessing and a curse.
FF: Kevin, I recall you mentioning that one of the things you love most about Ericka is her loyalty, but that she can be loyal to a fault! Based on the book “The 5 Love Languages,” which language–Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, Physical Touch–what do you think your wife’s love language is?
K: Words of affirmation and physical touch.
E: Funny you should ask because we were just talking about Love Languages a few weeks ago. Mine IS physical touch and words of affirmation but with a twist. Some may feel as though it goes without saying but it has to come from a genuine space. Flattery which is defined as insincere praise coupled with ulterior motives is offensive. So the combination of genuine words of affirmation and physical touch is rare and beautiful.
FF: Do you know your husband’s love language without having to ask? What do you think it is?
E: I believe he would say his is physical touch and quality time, though his demonstration of acts and service is quite dominant. He takes providing for our family and making sure we’re ok very seriously. It is extremely important to him.
FF: Seems like there’s always a place of discovery in marriage no matter how long you’ve been together, correct? Isn’t that what makes it exciting?! Speaking of surprises…. After 17 years, what has surprised you the most about love/marriage? What would you tell yourselves, the bride and groom at the altar all those 17 years ago?
Kevin + Ericka’s VIDEO RESPONSE: